How Hand-expressing saved my life!

The funny thing is, when I first decided to write this article I was 3 Months deep into breastfeeding my second child, attempting to figure out how I could possibly nurture my newborn, work 2 jobs and hold down 3 online courses and a situationship. My mind was swimming in sociology 101 and IT courses when all I really wanted to do was feel like an “adequate” mother. The kind of mother that had an answer for every question. I hope this will help you answer some of yours.

I had to learn what kind of LOVE that I needed. As soon as I would “come up for air” emotionally I found my breasts,( which I affectionately call “Ninny Jugs”), begin to swell and become sore. Frustration wasn’t the word honey, I was upset because with my first-born I was on my own in so many ways. I had every ounce of “liquid gold” mapped out, and with this baby I was all over the place! An emotional mess triggered by what had become a tumultuous relationship with my ex- fiancé.

Although I was pretty gifted with my Medela double pump at the time, I found myself most comfortable with an easy hand-expresser with a bottle attachment.

For some reason this contraption made me feel in control of my own body. Nothing against Medela- however, I’m not a cow.

For what was happening in my life, I didn’t need something else tugging at me and draining out precious liquids constantly!

I’m an honest writer and I have to be, because I like to read “real pieces”. Even in journalism classes “hard news”, seemed to comfort me a bit more than fluff pieces. So when I tell you that struggling with a relationship on course for destruction didn’t make breastfeeding any easier. As much as I wanted to rely on my mate to bottle-feed during pumping sessions or feed my two-year-old- I JUST COULDN’T!

You have to give yourself what you NEED. Whether that is alone time in your mind or alone time in your home.

I learned that you have to take control of your happiness and use your WILL to attract positivity and light into your life.

I am not a religious person, however, I do KNOW that the energy you put out comes streamlining right on back to you, so if you ACT like you don’t know what kind of love you need, you will surely find an individual that is incapable of showing you that love.

So, since I love happy endings, I can tell you that courting my wonderful man for 9 Months was the UNIVERSE giving me what I had asked for. A nurturer, a friend, a confidante and a REAL man capable of bringing, giving and creating love within me. I wouldn’t have be blessed with him unless I had made my mind up about what I NEEDED, instead of COPING with INCOMPATIBILITY within my life. Cheers!

How I lost 3 dress sizes in 6 Months!

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October 2015

It seems like from since the beginning of time we have been finding ways to balances eating and weight. As women (no matter the age) childbirth, breastfeeding, surgeries and a combination of these things turns into an uphill battle to maintain our ideal weight and be truly comfortable and healthy inside and out.

Balance is very key before beginning any set regimen. I find these dieting commercials and books so annoying because there is no SET way to lose post pregnancy pounds. This leaves most of us drained and confused as to how to eat enough to be full and satisfied without worrying about what the scale will say later and sayings like “A Moment on the lips is a lifetime on the hips,” don’t make it any better.

While our mates might not mind the extra lumps and bumps, we can sometimes take a stroll down memory lane and find ourselves stuck in an identity crisis. Why can’t the pounds just melt away?

I don’t profess to be a guru, however I can only tell you what worked for me. A bottom heavy slim build with a mid-high metabolism. Be creative and play with it! If you find that you get no results, take the time to retain a few of the eating practices for your greater health. Try it the first month, then 3, then 6.

MONTH ONE

No Beef/Pork/Chicken, Only Fish- Salmon or Whiting (Grilled or Baked) Little Salt

Steamed Veggies Only

Black, Navy or Northern or Lentil Soup

No Milk or Butter – Exchange for Almond (Silk) or Coconut if allergic)

No Gluten (Bagels, Bread, Wraps etc.) Alt. Sprouted Bread/Wraps

Plenty of Fruits (Bananas, Apples, Oranges, Lemons, Kiwi, Berries etc.)

Eat a full Breakfast

Only Agave or Coconut Sugar

Himalayan Sea Salt only or Coconut Aminos

Salad and Soup for Lunch

Fish and Veggies for Dinner, Alternate with Veggie Soup

Only eat at those set times!  When you need a snack grab your designated snack of a piece of fruit. No processed sugars!

Post-Partum: I was trippin’, and not on the sizzerup…

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Miss Amelia 2 Days Old

Okay! I’m usually talkative, mild-mannered and reasonable when it comes to simple matters but lately um (not so much). Tears were flowing which is rare because I’m not a crier. My emotions were upside down and I don’t know what I’d do without my man (which I will henceforth call “Goat Meat”); don’t ask. He is usually the one that needs a firm rational reminding of sorts, but today I was that person. I was overwhelmed because I now had a beautiful 8 lb 2 oz princess who was not only in need of my precious mind and breast milk, but also reliant upon my sound mind; which I felt was dwindling by the second. I felt unequipped, and not in the “I -bought- the- 7th- edition -of -‘What -To- Expect -When- Your -Expecting’- yet -left-it- on- my- bookshelf -for -months- kind -of -way”, but more like the God-never-ever-could-have-prepared-me-for-this-type-of-stress variety of woes. But after a bucket full of tears I sucked it up and used my babies’ slumber as a great kind of one-on-one therapy time with goatmeat. An epiphany ensued…I realized that i must be box-of-rocks crazy to think that my “Motherhood Experience” would be like a fairytale, nothing in my life had ever been so what i was experiencing was absolutely God’s “Growing Pains”, here I was in a new state of thought and awareness. I survived my 10 month (and counting) pregnancy and even more wild delivery to a beautiful baby girl and I felt blessed in so many ways that my worries became obsolete, non-existent and mostly premature. God never puts on you more than you can bear and since we cannot predict 6 months or even 1 month into our futures and what may arise were just gonna have to “Be calm and Get a Lollipop”, Hug the ones you love and be happy that you can share those moments because as God is misunderstood, so is Love and it’s cousins Admiration and Appreciation are lacking as well. Take your time….